If you’ve ever thought, I’m just bad at boundaries, you’re not alone. It sounds self-aware. Responsible, even. But underneath that sentence is usually something heavier. A quiet belief that if you were stronger, clearer, more confident, or less emotional, you wouldn’t...
There comes a point in many chronically ill people’s lives when the pace of the world stops feeling fast and starts feeling flat-out incompatible. It rarely arrives in one dramatic moment. More often, it shows up quietly. Maybe it happens when you need another rest...
It took me a long time to realize that exhaustion isn’t always physical. Sometimes it comes from being too available, too agreeable, too afraid to take up space. For years, I mistook compliance for kindness. I believed that being easygoing and agreeable made life...
What happens when people who were never expected to lead become the ones who change history? The story of disability rights isn’t just about laws passed or court cases won. It’s about ordinary people—many of them chronically ill activists—who refused to let exclusion...
There’s a moment that comes quietly, in the background of your day. You catch yourself thinking something cruel. Maybe it’s, “You’re just being dramatic.” Or, “If you really tried, you could push through.” And you don’t question it—because it sounds so familiar. That...
Feeling like you need to push through your illness to prove yourself? You’re not alone. I’ve been there too — and I know how damaging that mindset can be. There was a time when I thought my worth hinged on how well I could hide my illness. When I was first diagnosed...
a queer chronic illness blogger and digital resource creator. I make low-pressure tools and compassionate content for chronically ill and disabled folks navigating life with pain and limited energy.
When I’m not creating for The Thriving Spoonie, I’m a spouse to the best partner a spoonie could ask for, and a pet parent to an adorable & anxious rescue pup. You’ll usually find me crocheting, curled up with a library book, or playing cozy PC games—with coffee in hand, always.
